The person at the forefront when it comes to wedding planning is always the bride. This is the reason why most wedding-themed programs on TV are focused on her. This does not mean that grooms have nothing to contribute to the event. On the contrary, they have special responsibilities to take care of to ensure the seamless execution of this momentous event.
However, to be “real” here, most grooms get into wedding planning without a clear idea of what they need to do. Unlike women, majority of men do not really fantasize about a themed wedding and what they want to wear for the big day. They have this notion that their only job is to be present on their wedding day.
If you are an engaged groom and you do not want to risk your bride’s ire by being clueless about what to contribute to your special day, help is here. Top wedding planners have prepared a to-do list to help you properly accomplish your role and remind the bride that she has made the right decision to marry you.
The To-Do Checklist for Grooms
1. List guests from “your side”.
This is the first thing that you need to take care of — identify the people from your side to invite. So, gather your family and friends to help you out. This way, you will not forget anybody who’s truly important to have as a witness to your big day, and also be able to edit the list if there’s a limit to the number of guests you can have for the wedding.
2. Gather the addresses of your wedding guests.
This is one taxing activity, especially when invitations need to be sent out individually. If you are all about taking the traditional route for your wedding, you need to personally sign and give out the invites or mail them. Therefore, you will need to have the postal addresses of everybody on your list. You can reach out to them on social media or call them to do confirm their exact location.
3. Decide who the members of “Team Groom” will be.
Pick the members of your own entourage and make sure to tell them about their role in your wedding. Choose wisely because the best “teammates” will be a huge help to you in preparing for the big day.
4. Discuss guest accommodations with the bride.
This is particularly important if you have guests who will be flying in from abroad or driving in from a different city. You want to make sure that you have them covered since you invited them. So, sit down with the bride-to-be to discuss accommodation options for these people based on your budget and convenience requirements.
5. Make arrangements for your honeymoon.
This is a task you want to get out of the way already before your schedule gets too hectic. Choose a honeymoon destination that you and your bride will enjoy, and take care of all the details. Book your flight, car rental, and the hotel where you will be staying in, determine the activities to try, and set your total budget.
6. Take care of the music.
Will you be hiring a string quartet, singers, a band, a DJ? Get around to this right away because it is often difficult to book the best wedding performers, especially during the wedding season.
7. Find a good emcee.
Do not settle for just one of your friends who has a great sense of humor — hire a good professional emcee for the event. A good emcee will ensure the smooth flow of both the wedding ceremony and reception. Likewise, you and the bride can be sure to expect a seamless wedding program, and just have a good time along with your loved ones.
8. Purchase your wedding bands.
If you and your bride-to-be have agreed upon you undertaking this task, head to the jeweler immediately to get the wedding bands you have chosen as a couple designed and made, or resized as needed.
9. Pick your own, your father’s, the best man’s, and the groomsmen’s suits.
Set a date with your mates to choose your suits to wear for the wedding. You can head to a tailor, or a menswear retail store, or even a suit rental place. If you’re having trouble finding a good place to get a suit, turn to your wedding planner for help.
10. Find a car rental to cover your wedding day transportation needs.
This includes the bridal car, and the ride for the entire entourage and those guests who will be coming in from abroad and other cities.
11. Find professionals to document the event.
Your wedding planner can help you with this, all you and the bride have to do is choose from the different options that you will be presented with.
12. Buy gifts for “Team Groom.”
Have memorable presents for your mates ready. You can shop online for them (where you can find great deals), and make sure that they will be wrapped and ready to be given away on the day of the wedding.
13. Visit caterers and the bakeshop with the bride.
Sample the various food and beverage samples to be served for the reception, as well as the cake to ensure that the spread will be a gastronomic delight for all.
14. Prepare your vow and other speeches.
Have a designated notebook where you can write your vow and the other speeches you may have to make during the event. A notebook is better than a single sheet of paper that you can easily misplace.
15. Ready the payments for all the wedding services.
Arrange your budget according to the different wedding services to pay for. Put separate payments in envelopes to help ensure you have the right amount of money for every service you are tasked to cover.
And since you might just be too busy on your wedding day, ask your parents or groomsmen to personally give the payments to the service providers.
Enjoy your special day with your bride
So that’s it — a comprehensive list of things you should do as the groom.
With this list, you get to cover most, if not all, of the bases to ensure you fulfil your role and have an organized wedding day. Best of all, you and your bride can simply focus on taking in the sights and cherishing your new beginning as a couple.
Masha Cain is a founder and a managing director of Fabulous Day Weddings & Events. Masha’s idea of having a wedding planning agency came from having a wedding planner at her own wedding. Now, 5 years later, there have been over 100 successful weddings designed and planned by Masha and her team.